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“It is starting to feel like home again” – helping Sarah overcome her grief

After 30 years, Sarah couldn’t believe he was gone.

Several months have passed since the death of Andrew, her much loved partner and carer for the past three decades.

There are reminders of Andrew throughout the home they shared; everything from a photo that takes pride and place on the mantelpiece, to some of the gadgets Andrew was fond of collecting.

“Every time I thought there was some hope for a break in the grief, I ran into a brick wall,” Sarah said.

Such was Sarah’s grief; she couldn’t bring herself to sleep in the bedroom. Instead, she confined herself to the kitchen, choosing to sleep on the floor rather than set foot in the rooms that held so many memories.

Sarah added: “It was overwhelming, everything in the house reminded me of him and I couldn’t cope.

“Andrew did everything for me. I have epilepsy so I am prone to seizures and blackouts, so I was completely lost without him.”

However, there was some light at the end of the tunnel in the shape of Angela Warburton from our Support and Wellbeing Team. The team offer assistance to customers trying to overcome difficulties they are having in their lives by supporting them with both their physical and mental wellbeing.

Angela said: “When I first met Sarah, I really felt for her. She seemed lost, which was understandable after losing Andrew.

“Andrew was a collector so there was a lot of clutter around the house. I think Sarah was just overwhelmed by everything and couldn’t see a way forward.

Sarah agreed: “I just broke down in front of Angela. I had kept everything built up inside me but Angela listened and was there for me. She told me we would get through this and that Weaver Vale would be there to help me every step of the way.”

Working together, Sarah and Angela agreed a plan of action.

Angela added: “We arranged for our caretakers to clear some of Andrew’s stuff, which was really hard for Sarah but it was something that we had to do. We made some real progress and we also helped with re-decorating some of the room.

“We also installed a new gas and hot water system, and some of the staff at Weaver Vale have donated rugs as the house was looking quite bare once we had cleaned up.

“The difference I have seen in Sarah over recent months has been remarkable. She is now a lot more confident. Sarah never stops cleaning and she has some really supportive friends and neighbours have been here for her as well.”

Sarah said: “Things are still very raw, but I can’t thank Angela and Weaver Vale enough for everything that they have done for me. It is starting to feel like home again.”

If you are struggling and need a helping hand,  get in touch with our Support  and Wellbeing Team by calling 0300 303 9848 or emailing supportteam@wvht.co.uk

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